There is a simple concept that lies at the heart of almost any conflict. That's the feeling of being treated unfairly. This holds in minor disputes between family and friends all the way up through nation states near or at war. Parents favoring one child over another, are going to have conflict. Why is he or she getting special treatment? This does not even have to be real, but nearly perceived as real. It is a basic sense of inequality that's unfair.
Why am I the only one being grounded? My brother has done the same thing before, yet he can still come and go as he pleases. This is so unfair. Such a problem can lead to a lot of friction in the family. If left unaddressed, it can cause resentment and hurt that lasts for decades. These feelings can last so long the root cause is long forgotten. There's just this strange tension at family gatherings. Parents should not ignore such feelings from their children. Maybe the kid has a point. Maybe they are being unfair. If they have a good reason for grounding one and not the other, they need to make that clear. There are several things they should do. 1. Explain their actions clearly. 2. Foster active two-way communication (Or open communication for all involved). 3. Adjust accordingly. The perception of fairness can also be felt at the group level.
Terrorism does not happen in a vacuum. Rather, it comes from a deep sense of unfairness and inequality between groups of people. Again, the feeling of being treated as less than equal may not even be true. It just has to be felt as true. When fighting a much stronger enemy, acts of terror become a weapon of the poor. No, I'm not trying to justify terrorism as a tool or a tactic. However, I do think it's important we understand the real causes. Hint- it's not because someone “hates our freedom.” Wherever we find people starving or on the edge of starvation, an absence of the rule of law, little to no economic opportunity and the accompanying hopelessness, we also find fertile recruiting ground for groups who use terrorism. There's a better way to fight terrorism. Look for and address extreme inequalities. To flourish, terrorism needs hopelessness. We need to be more proactive.
The same idea of being treated unequally and unfairly rises all the way up to the nation state level. One only needs to look at all the fights for independence from the American Revolution to the disintegration of the old European colonial empires of the last century. It's not exactly a news bulletin to say people were being treated unfairly. Everything from over taxation, resource depletion and even human slavery were grossly unfair and of course led to conflict. The echoes of these wars are felt around the world until this day. We have traded direct control over others for Neoliberalism. Instead of direct control we use economic coercion, a looming threat of military power and a playbook of divide and conquer where we pick one local faction against another for our own gains. Rather than actually address some of these issues, we make cartoon villains out of those who see the world differently. To address the rhyme of history, we should consider other ways of problem solving.
Listen carefully when people say they are being treated unfairly. Often, there is some truth to it. This holds true from the individual level all the way up to nation states. Keeping things fair and communications open goes a long way to reduce family, group and national conflict. We need to recognize and correct areas of massive inequality. This too never happens in a vacuum. If things are going well for people, they will be much less interested in taking the suicide bomber route. Recognize the independence of others and help them thrive. Address concerns as they arise. Don't let things fester. Be willing to listen and adjust.
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