Trust Issues

Hey All,

Let's talk a minute about trust issues. Believe me when I say they are closely related to fears we talked about recently. You know the type, those who think everyone is out to screw them over, take advantage of them or has some kind of hidden agenda. They can be difficult to be around as they try to unload all that negativity. Two things. Don't be one of these people. Get them out of your life. Yes, we need to be skeptical and protect ourselves. Just do not carry it to the extreme.  Most of the time no one is trying to screw you over. Rather, they like you, are just trying to get through the day. They have their own worries and problems to deal with. Give others a chance to do the right thing and more often than not, they will. If this is not true for you, look both inward and who you are around. See what changes need to be made. Going through life as a negative downer type is no fun, a real joy killer. Life is just to short.  Here's a recent example from my personal experience.

I just had to get out of the house. So I decided to take a cruse (car trip) to the mountains. I was feeling good and decided to keep on keeping on. Instead of running out all my gas, I decided to stop. So, I go an and put it on my debit card. I ask the guy behind the counter if I need to get change, do I need to come back in? "No," he says, "we will credit your card." A random guy helps pump my gas and sure enough, I paid too much. The random guy asks the cashier the same thing and gets the same answer. I thought little else about it for the rest of the trip. The next day, I check my bank. No change. "I've been scammed," I thought. Okay, lesson learned. Cost me six bucks but lesson learned. It did not add up. I had two receipts clearly showing the difference. How did the cashier know I lived fifty miles away and would not come back all fired up demanding to speak to a manager? Was the random guy in on it? That did not add up either. Nobody likes to be duped. I had decided to let it go and take my six dollar lesson to heart. But it still bothered me. A day or two later I checked my bank account again and of course it was right! The charge had been corrected! My faith in humanity had been restored.

I must say I felt a little foolish for my doubt. Nothing added up. What happed was I got gas on a weekend day when the banks are doing little to nothing. It only seemed I had been cheated. I know this can and does happen. That's why I was willing to take my loss as a lesson. I still think, given the chance, people will do the right thing. I never allowed my doubt to get the best of me or ruin what was otherwise an awesome day.