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Monday, February 21, 2022

The Core of Conflicts Big and Small

 

kids at the American war museum Ho Chi Minh City 2005

We are all familiar with that rising feeling of anger while being treated unfairly. Cut off in traffic? The feeling can show up quickly and unexpectedly even over a simple act of inattention! A few of these on the commute into work can set your mood in a bad place for a good chunk of the morning. The other driver was not playing by the rules, not being fair. Feelings of being cheated, being othered (treaded as less than human), or treated unjust must be as old as humanity itself. Boss problems at work, spouse problems at home, kid problems on the playground; if left unaddressed can cause tragedy down the road. This is the origin of conflict at all levels. At its core conflict is about unequal or unfair treatment real or even imagined. We are social animals and in groups these feelings become amplified. Unaddressed injustices toward groups, if left unresolved, can have dire consequences. Groups that have no representation in government are considered stateless. 

There are a number of stateless peoples around the world; Palestinians, Kurds, Rohingya, Bidoon and any number of women and children who are seen as property, not people. In each case they are treated differently than citizens they live beside. They do not have representation or even a voice in government. Most live in extreme poverty with no economic opportunity for relief or improvement.  This is a recipe for wars, acts of terrorism and other crimes. It plays out the same all across the world. Being stuck in a stateless twilight zone, mostly forgotten, breeds mountains of resentment and animosity. All too often the only way out is through a rebel or terrorist group that's more likely to enrich a warlord type than actually help a community.   

 A one-sided treaty at the end of World War I that tried to put all the blame and costs of the war on Germany led to the rise of Hitler and World War II. A more reasonable treaty like President Wilson wanted could have completely changed the course of the twentieth century. Wars for independence all over the globe have roots in how unfair colonizers treat the locals. The USA, India, along with nations all over Africa, Central and South America as well as Asia all had to fight off colonizers. The grievances were many from resource exploitation, racism, resource theft and countless others. At the heart of these conflicts we find unfair and unequal treatment. Those being colonized rarely, if ever, had any voice in how they were governed. Nor much say in how borders were drawn up by larger far away powers. 

Resolutions look similar as we work our way up from micro to macro. The traffic aggressor holds up their hands to me acknowledging and apologizing for the error. I give a thumbs up acknowledging we can all make mistakes. A few minutes later the whole thing is forgotten about. States must recognize stateless peoples within its borders, see their suffering and bring them into the government or allow them to create their own government. Nation-states need to treat each other with respect according to international norms and war should only be declared in self-defense.     



     

Thursday, February 13, 2020

Friday, December 27, 2019

Communicating when in Disagreement




This is a really good video on arguing to win over rather than verbally fighting to win. 

Wednesday, December 25, 2019

Christmas Truce 1914


A true story...

Stories we live in


We live in stories created by society, family and ourselves. All us Americans know we live in the land of the free and home of the brave. The land where our first President, the original George W. chopped down a cheery tree and then fessed up to the  crime. The people who survived the Great Depression and then fought fascism in World War II, you now know them as The Greatest Generation. The winners of the cold war watched as the Soviet Union  came crashing down. You get the idea. Each family also has stories as well full of vivid larger than life characters. I have crazy Uncle Chip, the bookie, and wild eyed Uncle Mike, the drifter. Both spawn stories to carry us through the longest, coldest and darkest of nights. Then there is Grandpa LaVack who lived the Greatest Generation life to the fullest. He went through the Great Depression, was almost killed at Pearl Harbor raised four sons after the war. Earning retirements from the US Navy and the State of California, he passed away comfortably in his own bed at the age of 91. I could fill a book with family stories as I'm sure you can as well. Then, there our our personal stories. At birth, the doctors said I'd never walk. I've walked across college campuses, around in many airports. I've walked in London, England, Varna and Sophia Bulgaria, Saigon and Hanoi, Vietnam. I've taken pee stops in states all across the Union for whatever that's worth.

In each and everyone of us there are countless stories. Listen closely to the stories others tell you. They will reveal themselves in many ways. I used to listen to stories at the Employment Office everyday. One Pakistani dude told me how his ship left him stranded in New York. In time, I came to see why. He was not the nicest person I met there but interesting in a sublime sorta way. Another cat fresh off of "Contracting" in the Middle East told me of his plans to move to the Dakotas, get a CDL and drive trucks in the then booming fracking industry. The dude had his act together. Then there were the criminals. Sadly, they never stop paying for their crimes. Finding life sustaining work is almost impossible and the rest of us wonder why recidivism rates are so high. Listening to stories was one of the coolest parts of the job. Yeah, stories are cool and all- so?



What does story telling have to do with Unpeople?

A lot. There are countess people and groups who's stories are ignored. The odd ball asking for money at the exit from I-40 to ?? has a story. A few people read the sign and give a little cash. I don't because another story I hear is they are not as needy as they seem. True or not, who knows? The high, homeless guy making me and my pal nervous years ago? I did not ask his story. Nope. The people who proudly display the rebel flag in the county south of here? No one cares to ask why. American Indians still living in soul-crushing poverty seldom make the national news for anything good or bad. Looking out beyond our borders, there are countless groups looking just for acknowledgement, chocolate slaves, laborers in Saudi Arabia and ship breakers. Let's not forget the world's shanty towns and city dump dwellers. These stories are just starting to get out. Let's hope they do. Nothing like sunshine to fix things.


There is more to stories.... Soon.

       

                  

Friday, August 23, 2019

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